…A couple of years later, she went on a first date with her now-husband, Santiago [Andres], to a park. “As soon as we approached a huge outdoor staircase, I panicked,” she recalls. She confessed to Santiago [Andres] that she had rheumatoid arthritis and the stairs would be difficult to manage. The next thing she knew, he had swept her up in his arms and was gallantly carrying her down the steps. “That’s when I knew he was a keeper,” she laughs…
It’s a good way to separate the wheat from the chaff.
While the consensus among many people with an autoimmune disease is that you don’t want to share too soon, there are advantages to getting it out in the open early. “I used to tell people even before our first date, because I viewed the disclosure as a test: If they reject me just because I have arthritis, then they’re not worth my time and effort anyway,” says Aleite.
She would often volunteer that information in the early stages of getting to know someone via text messaging: “If I was asked what my hobbies were, for example, I’d mention that since my RA was flaring up, I was trying to avoid activities like biking that would put a lot of strain on my knees,” she says…Read More on Yahoo.com.